Hello again I would do something different again as I usually do an advice column but thought that this story might be a bit more interesting to read. In my previous blog, I wrote about how going through breast cancer helped me to meet that special someone in my life and how we are engaged and all.
Now the story continues forward. We have been engaged for over a year and I finally had the chance to come and be with my fiance before we get married on October 30th. Its been an incredible journey just to get to this point. There has been so many hoops that we had to jump through to get here. Paperwork and money and more paperwork after we are married. It sometimes seems like a never ending treadmill but in the end its all worth it as I never thought that I would meet the love of my life at all.
All the arrangements for the wedding had to be made long distance, which has been a bit hectic itself. I would like to share a couple funny things with you about this journey. Last year, I bought a wedding dress after we got engaged. I bought it where I'll be living and I had my fiance pick it up. Its been so long since I saw the dress that I had forgotten what it looked like. Thats not the only funny thing. I went in to have what I thought were going to minor alterations to the dress and ended up having to have major alterations done. On the other hand when my fiance went in with his brother and nephew to see about getting tuxes for the wedding, they didn't have to even try anything on. That really surpised me, as they just took their measurements and they will go back 2 days before the wedding for the fitting. One can only hope that they have the proper sizes.
The other thing that has been a bit rough is that we have to sets of parents asking us why we didn't invite one particulare person or another. Its going to be a very small wedding to start off with and we have found that its hard to please everyone. I guess as long as we enjoy the day and it goes off well thats all that matters.
I don't know why once you get engaged, people ask when you are getting married and then we you have a wedding date set, they ask when you are going to have children. I am 41 years old going on 42 in a few months time and my fiance will be going on 44 in a few months time. We are both cancer survivors and we don't want any children. We already have 7 furry children( 7 cats) who keep us more than occupied as they have the energy of little children. I just love to see teh look on people's faces when I tell them I have 7 children. Little do they realize that its 7 furry children.
Moral of the story is not to let people try to push you faster than you want to go. Just go the speed you are comfortable with things. Its better that way.
